Comments on: Jesse Logan Committed Suicide Over “Sexting” (Photos)

By: Ben Leichtling

Ben Leichtling — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 23:27:17 +0000

As much as I feel for Jessica and her parents, they’re calling for the wrong methods to try to stop sexting. We shouldn’t have laws to stop self-sexting and schools should not be held responsible for stopping it. Both paths will lead to morasses and a huge waste of time and money.

The first problem was with what Jessica did. The solutions to that problem begin at home. Whatever the family dynamic was, Jessica sent the pornographic pictures of herself to her boy friend. She didn’t have the sense to look ahead.

Beyond a short talk about the dangers of exposing yourself in public, schools shouldn’t get more involved. We don’t need extensive and expensive educational programs.

A second issue is the ex-boyfriend’s sending pornographic pictures of someone else, and the subsequent harassment by nasty, cyber bullying girls and boys who passed around Jessica’s nude pictures, trashed her on Facebook, IM’d her and ruined her reputation can be made illegal.

I’m sorry Jessica didn’t have the inner strength and resilience to resist the bullying and harassment, and to move on beyond the loss of her reputation.

Disclosure: In addition to having six children, I’m a practical, pragmatic coach and consultant. I’ve written books of case studies, “Parenting Bully-Proof Kids” and “How to Stop Bullies in their Tracks.” Check out my website and blog at BulliesBeGone (http://BulliesBeGone.com).

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By: Sheree Baugher

Sheree Baugher — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 18:29:24 +0000

George…don’t tell me that in your teens you were perfect…don’t tell me that today your perfect…Please do not sit and make judgement about her and the picture…that’s the very thing that caused her to take her life…people making judgement…First of all..based on my experience with MEN…women are not the ones sitting around thinking about naked women and sending pictures…its the Men thinking about it…then it’s oh baby if you could just send me a picture of your gorgous boobs I could look at you all day long…oh baby rememeber I just love you so much and for the rest of our lives..it would make our relationship so much stronger…I want you to be my wife and the mother of our kids…of course I would never show it to anyone else…NOW..she is in love with the man..this is between the two of them…SHE TRUST THAT… Her boyfriend…the one that loved her…needs a serious lesson is privacy…and respectand what love is all about!!! Teenagers don’t see down the road, they only see today and they trust the people whom they love today and those people that violate that trust should be punished! and no, I don’t speak from experience…I speak from others that I have counseled…and they are wonderful, caring, loving people that made a mistake but their “so called friends” made it a point to try and punish them everyday for it…”you know, the friends that have done stuff themselves just hoping and praying that NO one finds out about it” ….the truth is we all make mistakes through out our lives….the whole picture is find a better school and better friends!!!

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By: Sheree Baugher

Sheree Baugher — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 17:42:53 +0000

All schools have a code of conduct policy…and what the consquences will be for those who break the policy…if the child is on school grounds…the school is responsible…if the kids will speak up….your lawyers can do there job….BUT your big problem is to get kids to speak up…they don’t want to get their “so called friends in trouble”…and like your daughter said…” you suffer the ridicule”…How sad it is…Kids are mean and the parents are clueless…you trust your kids when they say they can handle it…or they say everything is ok now…but the truth is they still feel the world is against them and I blame the mean kids for it…they needed their butts kicked and made to go hard labor for several months, with no tv,computer, or cell phone..Oh, but my kid would never do anything like that…right..and I’m Rachel Welch!!! Without the victims speacking out…there will be no change in peoples minds..She spoke out…I’m sure it opened the minds of a lot of people…and I know how proud you were…however…the thoughtless acts of others…closed your future with a beautiful daughter…and that’s something those people will have to live with for the REST of their lives…whether you achieve leagl results or not…theirs lives are also changed forever…I speak from experience to a degree…Your daughter would not want you to be a victim..I will pray for your strength and healing each day….

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By: George

George — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 00:03:57 +0000

Absolutely tragic. I fear for this generation of young people who seem to have no concept of the consequences of their actions, and who think everything is a big joke that shouldn’t be taken seriously (until they find themselves the victim). We’ve worked so hard for years to empower our youth, empower young women. But in today’s society, with the communication tools and poor attitudes, one can only imagine the abject feeling of powerlessness that Jesse Logan and other victims have experienced. This raises so many issues (social responsibility, peer pressure, personal responsibility, respect for oneself, parental supervision of young teens). S And the message has to be drilled into the kids that what they share is available to everyone. And of course there’s parental responsibility…..

The proverbial “BUT” is being ridiculously overlooked, here. “She sent him the pictures BUT…” “It wasn’t a smart idea to show her boyfriend them BUT…” Are you guys a little too reluctant to pin a lot of the blame on this girl for fear you’ll be branded insensitive assholes because she’s no longer alive? I think if she were still living you’d be a lot less forgiving of her folly.

There are no “BUT”s in some situations. I’m not saying those who passed around her photo are angels, no way. But they did not initiate this.
Remember, it takes a spark to start a fire. She sent the pictures. PERIOD. I don’t give a damn how trusting someone is…there are certain things you just don’t do! Why was it imperative she take naked pictures of herself and TEXT THEM? I think a girl who would do something of this nature in the first place has some internal conflict that needs attention.

Do you all realize that none…NONE…of this would have happened to her if she’d used just a bit of common sense? Come on, there’s gotta be someone here who speaks my language.

If not, let the flaming begin; descend upon me like a pack of vultures and pick me apart.

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By: c-bird

c-bird — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 18:13:23 +0000

I agree with broogha. Definitely some serious sexual overtones for an 17/18 year old. Teens nowadays are trying so hard to be “mature” in actions, dress, sex etc…but in reality they’re not ready for such mature things. Bullying within a school should be addressed by both administration as well as parents. Tragic story, but could have been avoided.

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By: broogha

broogha — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 14:30:46 +0000

Sad, Sad Story. Some of these pictures hint contain serious sexual overtones, ones that, if I were a parent would have raised serious questions about the activities of my daughter. American parents need to wake up…there is a fine balance between keeping track of your child so as to let them grow into the person they are and being sure that they have the guidance to so as to not to make irrational decisions that often come back to haunt you. Blaming the school is so easy, the parents should have gotten counseling for this child along with having a long talk with her–not to chastise but for better understanding.

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By: gerard Vandenberg

gerard Vandenberg — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 08:56:35 +0000

WWELL, america is a pretty strange country, folks.
ESPECIALLY for young girls!!

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